This rich article by Cathleen Calbert, a poet and professor at Rhode Island College. She is the author of “Sleeping With a Famous Poet.” The whole article as featured in the New York Times.
The tender parts of the article:
Guys don’t tell you what to do. This also is both good and, oddly, bad.
Of course, there remains a fissure between what he says he’ll do and what he actually does. Still, he’s true to me despite my own difficult nature.
Guys wear the kind of clothes they wore as boys…
Guys are boys who didn’t grow up to be men.
Guys are capable of swooning over a new writer they’ve just discovered, or of speaking passionately about some idea. They’re nothing but possibility.